Occasionally it can be tricky to recognise when a loved one has an alcohol addiction. There is a fine line between social/moderate drinking and alcoholism and quite often, discussing the problem is strenuous and uncomfortable for all parties involved.
Drinking alcohol to deal with everyday life, or to avoid feelings of regret or pain, is a significant problem which can result in dangerous consequences. Alcoholism is more than merely binge drinking over the weekend. It is a physically exhausting dependence on alcohol which is often difficult to recognise. As a result, it is critical to understand the issue and acknowledge the warning signs of an alcoholic.
There are a lot of factors that must be taken into account when understanding alcoholism. Genetic factors such as family history, environmental factors such as social and work life, and mental health factors such as depression and anxiety, all play an interconnected role in alcohol addiction. The truth of the matter is that addicts typically use alcohol to self-medicate, and the core issues affecting the person have to be resolved to beat the addiction.
Due to the commonality of drinking in various societies all over the world, in addition to the vastly different effects from person to person, it is difficult to identify when a loved one has an alcohol addiction. The bottom line is this: if a person's drinking is negatively influencing their life, then they have a drinking problem. Here are some warning signs that can help you recognise when a loved one has an alcohol addiction:
There are typically two types of drinking problems: alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence.
Alcohol Abuse
Alcohol abuse is where a person's alcoholic behaviour is self-destructive and harmful, however it is typical for alcohol abusers to be able to put limits on their drinking to avoid detection.
Common signs and symptoms are:
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[if !supportLists]● [endif]Consuming alcohol in dangerous situations such as drink-driving and caring for children
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[if !supportLists]● [endif]Unable to rest or socialise without alcohol
It is important to note that not all alcohol abusers become alcohol dependent, however this is the first step and a major risk factor. Alcohol addiction can suddenly develop in response to stress, personal loss or financial issues. On the other hand, alcohol addiction can progressively develop as tolerance increases.
Alcohol Dependence
Alcohol dependence (or alcoholism) includes all of the symptoms of alcohol abuse with an added ingredient: physical dependence. If you depend on alcohol just to function and get through the day, then you have alcoholism. If you need a drink in the morning because of you feel sick from withdrawal, then you have alcoholism.
Common withdrawal symptoms are:
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[if !supportLists]● [endif]Fatigue
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[if !supportLists]● [endif]Loss of appetite
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Now that you recognise the signs and symptoms of alcohol addition, here are some steps you can take to help a loved one with alcoholism:
Step 1 - Stop ignoring the addiction
If a loved one is suffering from alcohol addiction, the best thing to do is to be open and honest with them about the matter. Even though it may seem challenging because of the nature of the problem, simply ignoring the issue or hoping the person will solve the issue by themselves is not an effective course of action.
Tell your loved one that you're fearful and concerned concerning their drinking and be prepared for a negative reaction. It's common for alcoholics to be in denial and to respond bitterly to any suggestion of a drinking problem. Reassure them that you simply want to help them in a non-judgemental, compassionate and genuine approach.
Step 2 - Assemble support
Recruiting the assistance of relatives and friends whom the person trusts will make it a lot easier to offer help. Setting up an intervention is a reliable technique to communicate to the person that not only do they have a problem, but there is an abundance of support and encouragement in their recovery process.
Consulting with a professional, for example, a doctor or specialist is a good way to get an idea of the best way to address the person concerning their addiction. Ask for suggestions and devise a plan, such as the services from an alcohol rehabilitation centre or a therapist, and the expenses and duration of treatment.
Step 3 - Rehearse
Consider the most ideal way to speak with your loved one about their addiction. Be sure that you use positive and supportive statements rather than negative and unsettling statements. Tell the person how 'you' feel and the value of the relationship to you. Do not just focus on their behaviour and the toll that alcoholism is taking on their life. Stay calm and be prepared for a cynical reaction. Reassure them that you're there to help.
Step 4 - Intervene when the person is sober and calm
For the most beneficial results, don't approach the person when he or she has been drinking or when they are stressed. A calm, sober atmosphere is highly important for the person to best comprehend what is being communicated to them, both verbally and emotionally. Make sure the conversation transpires in a secluded and private setting to avoid any shame or disturbances.
Step 5 - Commit to Change
It's normal for alcoholics to play down the effects of their drinking problem. Don't succumb to fabricated promises such as cutting down on their drinking on their own. Suggest a professional treatment program which is one of the most reliable way to treat alcoholism. It's important to not allow emotions dictate the conversation. Try to achieve firm commitments and follow up on them to indicate that you are genuine about their recovery. This process is lengthy and enduring, and relapses are natural. Patience is key; there is no cure for alcoholism and essentially it is up to the person to want to help themselves.
Step 6 - Monitor progress
Alcohol addiction is a debilitating issue and it's vital that you keep track of your loved one's progression for the entire journey. Be supportive even after treatment has finished. You must be committed to their long-term recovery. Even if a person has finished treatment does not in any way indicate that they're completely recovered. Stay committed.
Step 7 - Avoid Codependency
Those close to a person with alcoholism can naturally become excessively concerned for their well-being. This is called codependency and is harmful to recovery. Making sure that you are supportive is important, but becoming their doctor and therapist will do more damage than good. Not only have these experts spent years studying and training, but they are unbiased from the start and won't allow emotions to get in the way of an effective recovery. Furthermore, codependency can result in other destructive behaviours which are every bit as detrimental. If required, seek support from a counsellor or support group to deal with any codependency issues.
Start the Road to Recovery today
Alcohol dependency is a common illness in today's society. Growing pressures from work, finances and family require attention before they become a significant problem. If you have a loved one that needs help, please contact the helpful team at The Banyans on 1300 226 926 for a confidential discussion about their alcohol rehabilitation centre facilities or visit http://www.thebanyans.com.au/ for more information. Your health is our priority.
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